A Guide on Twin Flame Relationships
This is a short guide on the twin flame connection. I’m sharing this based on my own personal experience, as well as the research I’ve done on twin flames. Please take only what resonates and leave the rest. I hope this will provide context and suggested ways to heal if you’re in a twin flame connection.
I went through a 2.5 year healing process with my own twin flame, who I’m now in a very happy and stable relationship with. At parts of this guide, I will share my own journey to provide examples.
What are Twin Flames?
Twin flames are commonly understood to be the same soul that was split upon conception. In other words, they are two separate people who share the same soul.
Because the soul was spit upon coming to Earth, this can create a feeling of loss or loneliness from a young age. It’s said that this feeling dissipates once meeting your twin flame.
Not everyone has a twin flame here on Earth. In fact, being incarnated with your twin flame is rare. If you think you’re a twin flame, please know that this is a sacred initiation and is not for the faint-hearted.
What’s the Purpose of the Twin Flame Journey?
In short, the purpose of this journey is to transmute difficult karma and establish unconditional love. The twin flame relationship is a tangible opportunity to heal many lifetimes of suffering to evolve as a soul.
You can think of the twin flame relationship as a “micro” example of what’s present on Earth. Earth is a difficult place to be because there is so much torment, pain, disruption and chaos. However, if more people worked through these harships, love could prevail.
The same is true of a twin flame relationship. Unconditional love can prevail — it just takes serious effort.
What Typically Happens in a Twin Flame Journey?
When most twin flames meet, they feel an instant connection to one another. Many will be energetically activated — for example, they may experience shivers, chills or intense energy rushing through them.
They may also feel an incredible level of happiness and delight, which is dramatically more intense than any other relationship.
Usually, twin flames will happily connect for a few weeks or months. Then all of a sudden, things fall apart. One twin flame runs away from the connection because it’s too deep and it’s triggering them; the other will continue to seek the connection because of the deep energetic tie. This is often spoken about as a “runner/chaser” dynamic, in which one person is the runner and the other is the chaser.
A phase of separation usually follows. Separation can last months or even years. This is the most difficult part of the journey and triggers deep healing for both parties — especially the chaser! In my own journey, my twin flame and I didn’t see each other for up to 6 months at a time — even after we had happily dated for 2 months! This was almost unbearable and forced me to face immense healing.
During this time, you’re forced to go all the way to the root causes of your trauma, pain and suffering – including things that perhaps you were not aware of! In my journey, I had no idea that I had so many abandonment wounds that stemmed back to childhood, as well as to past lives with my twin flame. Every time I healed at least one of these wounds within myself, I was able to reach a deeper level of unconditional love for my twin flame.
Ultimately, after all of the healing, you and your twin flame will reach union. This is a state of happiness and is most often romantic, allowing you to fully enjoy one another in a healthy, balanced way.
To be honest, I don’t know many twin flames in union at the time that I’m writing this (May 2024). That said, because more love is manifesting on Earth, I expect more twin flames to come into union over the next few years.
Why Is It Beneficial to Go Through the Twin Flame Journey?
The twin flame journey can be described as “not only for oneself, but for all”. Healing the twin flame relationship offers you more unconditional love — and it also helps this love manifest on Earth.
If you’re truly dedicated to embodying unconditional love and bringing it to Earth, then it’s beneficial to go through this journey.
On a personal level, twin flame love is the deepest type of love — your souls love each other profoundly, across lifetimes and dimensions. Once you’re in union (and often before), twin flames can psychically access one another’s energy because they’re so connected and share the same soul.
That said, this level of healing isn’t for everyone — and it also isn’t beneficial to stay tethered to the relationship if you are facing maltreatment or negativity.
Many people ask me if they should “wait” for their twin flame, and I usually say no… Focus on yourself and heal, and be open to other healthy relationships coming into your life. At times, dating someone else who is healthy and stable can actually help you heal tremendously. This may be exactly what your twin flame relationship requires.
What Signs Indicate That You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship?
The most obvious one is you’ll feel like you’ve known your twin flame for thousands of years. It’s an unspeakable connection that is simply impossible to compare to any other.
You’ll feel a deep familiarity and unconditional love with your twin flame. There is a “psychic energy” to this connection.
It will also be admittedly difficult to “get away” from your twin flame — even if you try! You will find yourself regularly thinking about them and feeling them… to the point that you feel as if they’re in the same room as you.
Other signs of a twin flame connection include:
Experiencing tingling, shivers and chills when around your twin flame or while thinking of them
Telepathy - for example, thinking of them and having them reach out at the same moment
Similarity in your physical appearance
Feeling immense love towards them, despite their actions
Feeling triggered by them
An age gap or similar “socially unacceptable” barriers (ie. Teacher / Student; different religions)
Facing judgment from others regarding your connection
An internal “knowing” that they are your twin flame
What Can You Do to Heal a Twin Flame Relationship?
The number one thing is to look within, become aware of the parts of you that need work, and prioritize your own healing. When you heal yourself, you are healing your twin flame too. Remember, you share the same soul.
Your twin flame will naturally trigger you, so you can ask yourself: “Is my reaction coming from a place of ego, or is this coming from my soul?” Many of our reactions (ie. getting upset, feeling left behind, being angry) are often coming from our ego. We have to notice these energies and transmute them in order to reach a place of unconditional love. This is an exceptionally difficult thing to do, and it took me about 2 years to heal the majority of these energies. Once I was able to work through challenging emotions, understand their roots in my childhood, and come up with healthier reactions, I became much less triggered.
One of the signs that you’ve tremendously healed your twin flame relationship is you’ll feel clearer — mind, body and soul. For example, the initial activations you received in your body will begin to become less shocking, and you will experience less anxiety.
Eventually, you will be able to exist with your twin flame in a normal, conventional way — reaching a state of pure vibrational unity. When you know that this is your person and that your souls are one, you don't need to worry about anything anymore. You've done the work, and it’s really worth it!
Final Words
The twin flame journey is not for the faint-hearted.
I’m personally grateful that I went through this journey. It taught me so much about myself and has given me the opportunity to share more love — not only with my partner, but also with the world. In many ways, this journey made me the balanced person I am today. Although it was very painful, I’m also proud of myself for going through it, and now I have a very loving relationship that I cherish daily.
It’s totally up to you whether or not you pursue your twin flame relationship. Please make sure to listen to what your soul is telling you to do. Your soul knows better than anyone else.
I’m sending you love, luck and power!
